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What have people tried during university?
Which drugs have you tried?
Most students experience substances for the first time during university. The common ones we see students try are marijuana, alcohol, and tobacco, with most staying away from the harder drugs.
Make sure to stay safe and be in a safe environment when trying any type of drug.
Have you ever had sexual intercourse?
University is a time when many students are finally living alone or with friends and have more freedom in their lives. No more curfews, no more parents wondering where they are, and because of this, many students seek out new relationships and explore their sexuality.
There is no need to rush, and it is important to take your time and be comfortable before taking this step.
If so, in which term did you first have sexual intercourse?
How many relationships have you been in during university?
The majority of our respondents have been in either 1 or 2 relationships during their undergraduate career.
How many sexual partners have you had during university?
Most respondents have had one sexual partner during their university with an almost equal number having zero. But nothing can top the one who reported having 57...
How much time did you spend in a relationship during university?
Maintaining relationships during university can sometimes be difficult with heavy course loads, however, if there is a will there's a way! Most relationships tend to last 2-4 years, with 21 of them making it past the 4 year mark. Congratulations!
Have you ever cheated on someone, been cheated on, or helped someone cheat?
Almost all respondents have never been in any cheating situations.
Did you ever date another CS / CS/BBA / CFM student?
Most respondents have not dated another CS/ CS/BBA / CFM student. 42 students reported having done so, while 74 said they did not.
If you answered no to the previous question, did you want to date another CS / CS/BBA / CFM student?
Regarding those who answered no, 40 out of the 66 respondents said that they would not. Is this surprising to you? Dating someone in your program means you now have someone to spend those all-nighters with. On the other hand, having a class with your ex after a bad breakup can definitely be awkward.
Are you currently in a relationship?
59 respondents reported being in a relationship and 58 said they were not. Let's hope that the 18 who did not respond are not in “complicated” relationships.
In which term did you meet your current partner?
Before university and during 1A seem to be the times most people fall in love and meet their current partners. But regardless, who knows, maybe this term is your time to shine!
Where did you meet your current partner?
For those who had a current partner, most of them met them through mutual friends, with high school being in second. Mutual friends are a great way to meet new people and it helps to create even larger friend groups!
What is your rice purity score?
For those uninformed, the Rice Purity test is a 100-question survey that aims to gauge a person's level of “innocence” or their experience in regard to a variety of scenarios ranging from sexual situations to substances and various others. 5 respondents had the same score of 50! Out of all respondents, 8 was our lowest (???) and 100 (a perfectly pure score!) was our highest.
How has your understanding of relationships changed during university?
Relationships are often a major turning point in many people's lives. It is a commitment to each other—some struggle, while others do not. Let's see what other people have to say.
It's much more important to find someone you can care about than a perfect match.
Since I was never in a relationship before university, I didn't really have many expectations for a relationship coming into university. Now, I believe that one of the most important things in a relationship is that you have some activities you enjoy doing together with your partner. Once the initial novelty of the relationship wears off, you still want to be able to have fun together! Additionally, once you get more comfortable with each other it is important to discuss your values and goals for the future, to ensure that you are compatible in that regard.
Everyone has different love languages and sometimes you aren't compatible - however, it's always worth the effort to be open minded and to try in love in ways you aren't familiar with.
When you're young, it feels like someone you love and loves you back is easy and common, but you realize later on, finding someone like that is very rare.
You can have great relationships with people that aren't your partners (ie. friendships). Invest in them because they're what make life fulfilling. Finding a partner will happen naturally when you are confident and comfortable with yourself.
rn people are looking for other that give them *that* feeling (excluding relationships after 4+ months) - it really is just a game of giving people that feeling while not having major red flags :P
Never forget to invest in yourself first
Not everything works out perfectly, you have to put work into maintaining a relationship
Had my very first relationship and am finding it much more exciting and less scary than I initially imagined
I used to only be able to imagine them as long term commitments but I'm much more open now to different conceptions of relationships and I view them as a connection that is serving you in some way right now, rather than a commitment to a certain kind of future.
Yeah, think I got a much better idea of what it takes to make a long-term relationship work. And maintaining a relationship long-distance during COVID-19 was also a learning experience, but overall I'm thankful for the learnings it gave me.
People show that they care in different ways
It takes much more work to stay in a relationship (and the work is ongoing too) than
I realized that compatibility matters so much more than momentary infatuation.
It's a lot more work and compromise than I expected
It's a lot of luck, it's a lot of time, and it's a risky investment
Sometimes there is no right or wrong in relationship but it's more about compatibility. It's the compatibility of values, personalities, hobbies, financial situations, locations, etc. No matter how ideal the relationship seems when it begins, problems like these will still arise.
It feels great to have someone I can trust and open up to. Being in a relationship helped me understand myself and others better and become more confident.
I've learned what the purpose of relationships are for me, how to communicate with my partners, how to compromise, how to keep mutual emotional and sexual interest.
If they're not making you happy anymore, it's time to walk away. Sometimes they can be the right person for you but timing/circumstance (co-op schedule :/) will make it not work out. You have to figure out if you're willing to change plans for each other or let it go.
Any advice for people looking for a relationship?
How does one get rizz?
Try and get to know as many new people as possible, and show a genuine interest in them as a person. The best way to find someone you are compatible with is just forming friendships with people. If you start having feelings for someone, ask them if they would like to go out to dinner/movies/whatever you both enjoy making it clear you want this to be a date.
Keep working on yourself, but remember that romantic love is weird and rare and irrational so it's important to remember to just keep pushing forward and shooting shots.
Just be yourself and don't be afraid of asking people out
At the end of the day it's about happiness. Focus on that.
Be yourself, start doing things you are passionate about and enjoy doing, and it will come
Partners are meant to help you grow. If you're looking for someone to "accept you as you are", you're looking for the wrong thing -- you have to admit there's parts of yourself that could stand to be improved.
Just start holding hands with your friends and hope it works out with one of them
If you're like maniacally dedicated to finding one, you'll scare people away, but if you don't care at all, you won't take opportunities that arise. Be chill about it, but keep your eyes open.
Focus on bettering yourself before getting into one
Have a life outside your s/o, keep good friends around.
Start by being comfortable with yourself and being alone first.
Just get to know more people and eventually you'll find someone who clicks well with you
Don't worry so much about "checking all the boxes" from the get go it's more about "would I rather hang out with this person or be alone" and passing the vibe check at the beginning. People always lie and only show the more beautiful sides of themselves at the beginning so be flexible and open-minded, but also keep yourself safe and be skeptical.
Don't talk to someone for the sake of trying to get in a relationship. Talk to them for the sake of getting to know them and seeing if they are someone you can get along with.
You'll never get into one unless you are ACTIVELY trying to and spending time on it.
1. seek introspection 2. seek self-improvement 3. ??? 4. acquire soul mate 5. ggez
Don't try too hard. It wouldn't work if there's no chemistry.
Go meet new people! Talk to people in your class, attend clubs, meet friends of your friends, keep in touch with your co-op friends!
1. Don't rush. Aim to become close friends first. 2. Be authentic. 3. Emotional maturity is underrated.
Ask yourself "Why would someone want to date me? What can I offer?"
Any advice for people already in a relationship?
Don't take your partner for granted! Even when you're busy, make sure to check in with your partner and ensure that they do not feel neglected. Also, if your partner does something that bothers you, take some time to calm down and then talk to them about it! The only way you can have less disagreements in the future is if you discuss why you dislike certain things.
Make time to connect and strengthen your relationship
Communication is the most important thing. Relationships take work from both people, but the sum of the effort greatly exceeds what is put in
Communication is really important, don't be afraid to have the serious talks.
Partners are meant to help you grow. If you're looking for someone to "accept you as you are", you're looking for the wrong thing -- you have to admit there's parts of yourself that could stand to be improved.
Be true to yourself
You have to really appreciate your partner because it's really easy to take them for granted.
Be willing to admit when you're wrong or have made a mistake
Communication and openness is everything.
Keep it up!
What I've learned is that a partnership is necessarily 50/50. Compromising really is a thing you have to do to make a relationship work, but I think what's more important is having a partner who recognizes when you make compromises, is willing to make them for you, and is honest with you about their needs and feelings. What I've learned is that while there are a million things that could break a relationship, as long as you and your partner wake up everyday feeling like there is no challenge you aren't willing to overcome together because that's how much your relationship means to you, then there's nothing to fear.
Communication is important, even about the little things
Be open and understanding. Your partner doesn't have to think like you.
spend as much time as you can together, physically
PDA isn't always cute
Know what you are getting yourself into and clarify what each party wants
Even when you fight, you're on the same side.
Communicate about small problems so they don't turn into big problems
Never stay in a relationship that is hurting you or holding you back. A relationship should always add to your life.
It's ok to be a "bad partner" and be with a "bad partner" as long as discontentment is communicated in a healthy manner and both people are committed to growing. No one is born and angel (including ourselves) and it's completely normal to have disagreements and have things that anger you or your partner. It's not about how often you fight, it's about how you fight and what happens after the fight.